In two sentences described how men can groom, maybe even start stalking. I guess everybody reading your account will be interested in a Part 2 - How you matured away from your 1st boyfriend. Btw, what you describe is what ALL men (except for the ones looking for a 2nd mommy) instinctively have, until they realize how this providership 'works' by reading about if from another perspective like yours. It’s why they’re afraid of economically independent women too. Cheers.